Goonhub
12-01-2018, 12:07 AM
I'm sorry for posting again and I feel like a scumbag for doing this so late after the application was posted.
Usually, when I make decisions, I tend to rush into them. It's a personality flaw of mine, and it can lead to awkward and sticky situations like this one. Initially, I voiced support for Sayuta becoming a mentor. I'm changing my stance to rescind my support for this application.
I don't think Sayuta is a horrible person. They know a *lot*. Scary amounts of a lot. But as we all know, that's not the only factor for being a mentor. You also have to be willing to help people and have the right attitude to help people and this is where I think Sayuta falls a bit short. They just don't seem to have that same spirit that a lot of mentors do. I don't know what it is, but I never felt like the help or advice that I received from Sayuta was in my best interest, and rather served to stroke their own ego and show me how much knowledge they had; keeping me in a position where I was still admiring and looking up to them. I also never felt like Sayuta listened to me when I tried to misguidedly help repair interpersonal their relationships, and they overall were resistant to making changes and resistant to acknowledging that they may have been wrong. I'm also naturally a very trusting person who does their best to be liked because I enjoy the gratification and satisfaction from that feeling. I don't think Sayuta is doing anything malevolent, but after spacing myself away from things and looking back at whats transpired, I can safely say that I was being manipulated into thinking much higher of them and trusting them way more than I should've for someone that I had hardly known for the better part of a few weeks. I don't know whether or not this manipulation was conscious or not, and I'm not qualified to judge on that. I just don't think that, when stacked together, these qualities make someone who's qualified to be a mentor.
Usually, when I make decisions, I tend to rush into them. It's a personality flaw of mine, and it can lead to awkward and sticky situations like this one. Initially, I voiced support for Sayuta becoming a mentor. I'm changing my stance to rescind my support for this application.
I don't think Sayuta is a horrible person. They know a *lot*. Scary amounts of a lot. But as we all know, that's not the only factor for being a mentor. You also have to be willing to help people and have the right attitude to help people and this is where I think Sayuta falls a bit short. They just don't seem to have that same spirit that a lot of mentors do. I don't know what it is, but I never felt like the help or advice that I received from Sayuta was in my best interest, and rather served to stroke their own ego and show me how much knowledge they had; keeping me in a position where I was still admiring and looking up to them. I also never felt like Sayuta listened to me when I tried to misguidedly help repair interpersonal their relationships, and they overall were resistant to making changes and resistant to acknowledging that they may have been wrong. I'm also naturally a very trusting person who does their best to be liked because I enjoy the gratification and satisfaction from that feeling. I don't think Sayuta is doing anything malevolent, but after spacing myself away from things and looking back at whats transpired, I can safely say that I was being manipulated into thinking much higher of them and trusting them way more than I should've for someone that I had hardly known for the better part of a few weeks. I don't know whether or not this manipulation was conscious or not, and I'm not qualified to judge on that. I just don't think that, when stacked together, these qualities make someone who's qualified to be a mentor.