Romance and Goonstation RP

[OutbackCatgirl]

As a side-note, I'd like if we on both sides could keep things cordial when discussing this here. This is obviously a thing people are invested in but I think it would be nice if everyone was nice to each other no matter how annoying I am with my overlong writeups. I'm not warning anybody here, just like, saying. My posts are overly long because I feel like I have a lot to say usually and I want to try and say it all in as clear of a manner as I can produce sorry for the giant essay I'm just like this!!

Also reading this back I did kinda repeat myself a bit. This doesn't make me look very smart but I'm fine with it because I believe in what I've typed out here and I don't want to restructure this to still make sense while cutting down on that. This isn't really what I *enjoy* spending time on so I'm not gonna meticulously sculpt the post to absolute perfection, I am sorry for the added hassle to reading it, I'm not a great writer.

Look, you're right there. We should bring the tone back down to earth and do this thing like grown adults. That goes for me, too. I have been thinking, and honestly the main part of this whole thing that has got me so conflicted is the fact that a friend who never did a single thing out of line in my book, and never disrupted a single moment of the game that i was *aware* of, was likely, and indirectly, the catalyst that lead to the admins discussing this behind closed doors and then putting out a clarification.

Obviously this announcement i agree has nothing directly to do with that incident. I am going to stay vague since it isn't something for public conversation, but the wording of things and testimony from multiple folk lead me to feel somewhat distrustful of that decision, which is why I started to respond to this thread as I did. Again, we will not discuss that further in public, as it is rightly a private thing and should remain so; but if that helps explain why i feel the way i do about this, having essentially lost yet another friend who i enjoyed seeing ingame to things suddenly being outlawed that were previously seen as essentially harmless, maybe that will lend perspective. 

It makes me feel uneasy about entrusting the enforcement of this to folk that have misinterpreted situations, without malice, in the past. Inferring what others are intending doesn't always match with reality.

Zamu's testimony (and the fact she left the team at all) just has red flags a-wavin' and klaxons going off in my head. I've seen this exact situation in different flavours before where an already stressed admin team implodes over something small being made into something big. If any admins still have questions in their mind or wanna talk about it privately, my discord dms are open and absofuckinlutely confidential regardless of my own biases, for as long as I still have enough spoons to talk about it. Anyone stuck in the middle of this likely feels real uneasy and stressed right about now and i want y'all to know that regardless of opinions we all human, we all need to get stuff vented, or to shout into the void frustration at people being, well, people. 

I genuinely believe everyone here is tryin' to do their best out of shitty situations and honestly it's a moral quandary that absolutely sucks to be responsible for making decisions on. Be good to each other, ok?